I was interviewed for the Huffington Post!

So, a few months ago I came across an opportunity to be interviewed by a Huffington Post writer for their "Breastfeeding Chronicles" series.  I think the first week of August is world breastfeeding week.  I love breastfeeding so I was really excited for my interview.

I was interviewed by a really nice woman named Catherine Pearson and rambled on and on for about an hour, and my interview was published!  She did a great job of condensing everything I said and she fit it into a really nice article.   I do not take any credit for the format of the article that was all her.  I could never be a true writer or editor.  Way too complicated.

I pasted the article below and provided a link.  I think I'm allowed to do that legally as long as I clearly state this article is from the Huffington Post? You would think I would know since I'm a lawyer and all.  Anyway, Enjoy!

article below, courtesy of The Huffington Post, written by:
 

Catherine PearsonBecome a fan

Catherine.Pearson@huffingtonpost.com .

Link to article here.  

The Breastfeeding Chronicles: 'I Wish People Could Just Say It Was Awesome'

Claudia, 32, a Chicago-based bankruptcy attorney, has a 3-year-old daughter she nursed for more than 10 months, until she got pregnant with her second baby, another girl, who is still breastfeeding 18 months out. The experience, she says, can be summed up in one word: easy. In our next installment of The Breastfeeding Chronicles, Claudia describes what it's like to want to celebrate a near-perfect breastfeeding experience, while being mindful that so many women, including her close friends, struggle.

THE PLAN
When I got pregnant with my first, I just knew I was going to breastfeed. I never thought it wouldn't work. I figured: I have breasts, I will breastfeed.

But it was definitely difficult in the beginning. I realized it's not as easy as, you put the baby on the breast, you make milk, you breastfeed. I had a very strong let-down, so there was milk everywhere, and my nipples were sore and scabbed. I would cry and the baby would cry -- it was kind of disaster in the first week. I'd turn to my husband and say, "This is why women stop breastfeeding. Right here, right now." But I was lucky to have him supporting me, and my aunt, from Colombia, who was staying with us and who helped with everything, so we stuck with it.

With my second, I knew I was going to breastfeed again. I'm not sure how or why, but I just kind of knew I wasn't going to have any problems.

THE PERFECT FIT
To be honest, this breastfeeding experience with my second child has been probably one of the easiest things I've ever done.

I had a natural birth with a midwife (in a hospital) -- there were no interventions, no epidural, no Pitocin -- and she was handed to me immediately, still on the umbilical cord. I think that was the start of it: having a midwife who helped her immediatelylatch, within seconds. She sort of crawled up to my breasts, which was pretty cool. That didn't happen with my first child. Even though I had a good birth, they immediately took her away, weighed her and cleaned her up. I'm not sure, but in my mind, having a really good, easy, natural birth just helped, because I wasn't focused on healing. I didn't have pain, I didn't have stitches, so I could focus all my energy on breastfeeding.

My second baby was also just a better eater. She would eat while asleep [laughs], and she never had weight gain issues, so I never felt that self-doubt. And I was just more experienced. I put the baby to the breast whenever she was hungry. That was my breastfeeding strategy: Baby's hungry, feed her. That's it.

IDEAL WORK CONDITIONS
With my second, I had a longer maternity leave -- 12 weeks, versus 6 weeks. When my first daughter was born, I was so worried about having to start pumping right away because I had to go back to work. I started within two days. With my second baby, I didn't start until eight weeks. I was kind of like, "Oh! I should probably start pumping, because I'm going back soon [laughs]."

I've been at the same law firm with both children. It's very small -- basically me and my boss -- and he's very family friendly. I have friends who've asked, "How did you pump at work? Weren't you embarrassed?" And I'm like, "Embarrassed? Why would I be embarrassed?" I'm the type of loud, open person who leaves the pump parts in the kitchen. People are like, "Um, Claudia, your boob stuff. Go wash it."

I do have my own office, and I know that's not the case for many women. I have friends who are teachers who can barely find a janitor's closet to pump in, whereas I have a flexible schedule, I have my own office and a very supportive boss. That's huge. I have the ideal work conditions for breastfeeding. I do have to go to court, although my boss picked up a lot of that work for me. When I went, I would just ask to use the empty jury prep room.

COMING CLEAN
I know that my experience is very different from what a lot of women go through, and I've been privileged to have so much support. I have friends and I see women on message boards, Facebook and Twitter, who have so many problems with breastfeeding. I feel like when women say they succeeded, they're bragging. And I hate that. I wish people could just say it was awesome.

I donated some breast milk, and when the woman who was using it came over to get it, she was crying the whole time, and then she kept apologizing for crying. I didn't say much, honestly. I just kind of said, "I'm very sorry it didn't work out for you, and I'm happy I could help." I didn't know what else to say. This is a woman who struggled and tried, who took herbs and medicines, and pumped 100 times a day -- a woman who did everything in her power, and she couldn't breastfeed. So I'm very careful about what I say, because I don't want to boast.

GOING FORWARD
My baby is 18 months old and I'm still breastfeeding in the morning and at nights, although I'm not pumping at work any more. I didn't expect to be breastfeeding for this long, but it's going well, so we're just going to keep going for as long as we both want to. Nighttime feedings are getting a little bit tough; she wants to breastfeed 100 times before she goes to sleep [laughs]. But the bonding, with both my babies ... it's incredible.

You know, you never really hear good, happy breastfeeding stories, but I think it would help. My friend put together a contest where women wrote blogs about breastfeeding, and I think mine was the only positive one. She was kind of like, "Here's the sacred unicorn post about positive breastfeeding!" Maybe women who have positive breastfeeding experiences don't write about it or talk about it, because everything's going so well. You don't hear about the 500 planes that don't crash, you only hear about the one that does.

This account has been edited and condensed.

In celebration of World Breastfeeding Week (Aug. 1-7), HuffPost Parents participated in "I Support You," an initiative to collect photos and messages from mothers to each other that say we might lead different lives but we share wanting the best for our children. Find out more here.

Link to article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/22/breastfeeding-success-story_n_3743966.html

My failed attempt at making breast milk lotion

Well, my youngest daughter is now 17 months old and it has been several months since she took a bottle of milk.  She also has no desire to drink milk from a sippy cup.  So, I have about 25 oz of left over breast milk in my freezer that is getting a little bit old.  It's from a few months ago and before throwing it away, I googled what I could do with it.  I decided the most fun thing would be to make my own breast milk lotion! (Breast milk ice cream was a close second).

 

So I found a recipe here.

The recipe looked easy enough:

BREAST MILK LOTION

 

3 ounces of breastmilk

3 ounces oil (grapeseed oil for sensitive skin)

1 tablespoon of beeswax

a few drops of Vitamin E oil

optional: add essential oils for therapy/scent

 

Microwave the oil and beeswax slowly just until the beeswax melts, approximately 3 minutes.

Add the Vitamin E oil and slowly pour in the room temperature breastmilk while whisking rapidly until it thickens

(you can use an immersion blender to mix if preferred)

Pour into shallow jars or lotion tubs. It will continue to thicken as it cools. Refrigerate and use for up to 3 months.

recipe from: http://www.justbreastfeeding.com/benefits-to-breastfeeding/breast-milk-lotion-recipe/

So off I went to Whole Foods to find all the ingredients.  Turns out Whole Food didn't have beeswax so I was told I could substitute shea butter for beeswax.  So, here is how I made my first batch of breast milk lotion.  (disclaimer- it didn't turn out too well.  I think I used too much shea butter and it was really watery and kind of gross).

1. Buy the grapeseed oil, shea butter, vitamin E oil, eucalyptus essential oil.

It cost me exactly $34.73.  The most expensive things were the tiny vial of essential oils and the shea butter.  I picked eucalyptus. 

2. Defrost the breast milk if needed. I usually immerse a bag in a glass bowl within a pot of boiling water, then when the milk gets slushy I pour it directly into the glass bowl.

3. Melt the shea butter and grapeseed oil.  Here is where I was confused.  Since I was substituting  shea butter for beeswax, I was only supposed to use one tablespoon of shea butter but it really didn't look like enough.  So I used a few more tablespoons.  Still, the mixture was not hard but I figured it would harden later. 

Here is just the shea butter.  Alone it looks powdery but it if you rub it on your skin it turns oily right away. 



To measure 3 oz of grapeseed oil I just used an old breast milk container I had laying around.

mixed together it really just looked like oil.

4. Now you're supposed to add a few drops of Vitamin E oil and add the eucalyptus drops. I think I used way too much eucalyptus because the stuff in that vial is really concentrated. I imagine if you used essential oils you would know this, but I never had.









Eucalyptus oil cost: $9.39

5. Now add the breast milk.  The recipe said the milk should be room temperature.  Since I only had cold milk recently defrosted I just used that.  Maybe that messed things up?



recently defrosted breast milk.

The mixture started to separate and didn't mix very well at first.



Finally after wisking it together for a while it turned creamy, but still not quite thick enough.

 

That was pretty much it, then I poured everything into a glass jar I had and let it sit in the fridge. 

After about a day the consistency is still not quite right.  It looks like curdled milk to me.  It smells of way too much eucalyptus but not of milk (thankfully).  I tried a little on my skin and it was very oily. 

 

I don't know what I did wrong but it's just not quite right.  I think I'll try again with beeswax this time. 

Routine

Once again it's been a year since I wrote anything.  Mostly out of laziness.  I could say "I don't have time" but that's not really true.  I could make time but I don't.  I should though.  I like to write. 

Routine

We fall into routines in our lives.  Usually they are good and helpful.  They keep our lives in order and working.  They keep our children fed and clothed.  But too much of the same routine for too long (in my opinion) is never a good thing. 

Every night we come home from work.  Play with the children.  I sweep the floors and decide whether I want to start on dinner.  Half of the time I do start on dinner quickly, but the other half of the time we go out to eat or order something.  Preparing dinner at 6 pm at night is usually too hard.  I know I should "meal prep" or use my stupid crock pot.  But every time I use my crock pot I overcook the meat and the meal tastes like crap by the time we're ready to eat at 7 p.m.

After dinner we give the girls a bath, get them into their PJs and let them play (aka run around the house and fight with each other) until we decide it's bed time.  Usually the tv is on at this time and some movie is playing in the background.  Tonight the movie is Shrek.  For many agonizing weeks it was Tangled.  Before that, Mars needs Moms and Up.  I don't mind the kid's movies but again, the repetitiveness can drive you a little mad.

Once we determine it's bedtime (around 8:30 p.m.), I attempt to put the baby to sleep.  I take her upstairs and I nurse her to sleep.  Yes, I'm still nursing her.  Yes she's over a year old.  But she's still so little to me.  Especially compared to her older toddler sister.  Lately she wants to nurse about 4,000 times before going to sleep and it's starting to wear on me.  It's not that I mind nursing her but I only have 2 breasts and at this point in our nursing relationship I'm really not producing that much milk.  So after she eats off both sides once, there's not much there for her except to comfort nurse.  Finally, after about 20 minutes (on a good night) she falls asleep and I transfer her to the crib.

Then I go downstairs and pick up the toddler and bring her to her bed.  Lately she has been going to sleep without putting up a fight at all.  *Runs to knock on ALL THE WOOD*.

By this time it's about 9:30 p.m. if I'm lucky. Most nights I just plop myself on the couch and watch tv with my husband until 11 pm or later.  I enjoy my tv time at night, but what I really want to be doing is going to a gym, playing volleyball or doing some sort of exercise.  But alas- the routine.  I really need to break this vicious cycle and join a gym.  I think I will soon. I was on a Monday volleyball team but the season ended.  Hopefully we can put a team back together in the fall. 

 
 
 

So, there is my routine.  I don't mind it, but this summer we're going to have to change it up a bit for all of our sanity.  We're going to start going on more walks before or after dinner and we're going to try and play in the yard more nights.  Like so:

Playing in the dirt.

My two girls

Here is our beautiful newly renovated yard.

But for now, the routine persists.  Tonight, I broke the routine by writing this blog post.  Now to put the baby to bed!

Also.  I don't really know the point of this blog post, but here I am with my girls recently.

Theme Thursday topic: BREASTFEEDING

BREASTFEEDING.  Yes you've heard me talk about this topic before.  Usually I'm enraged about some idiotic tweet that insults breastfeeding mothers.  The comments are almost always the same:

"Ew... breastfeeding is disgusting"
"Breastfeeding should never be done in public"

Check out my previous blog posts if you don't believe me.  The most recent ignorant comment I read yesterday came from a 20 year old woman, and I quote:

"I don't think anything in this world grosses me out more than breastfeeding in public".

Oh, you don't believe a 20 year old woman could say such a ridiculous thing? Here is the proof:

Really?  She can't think of ANYTHING on this planet earth that disgusts her more than breastfeeding in public? I cannot conceive of such a human being.  I cannot believe that people THINK this way.  This makes me so angry I cannot type.  But it also makes me sad.  Depressed in fact. 

But you know what? Breastfeeding rant over.  Today's post will not be negative.  It will be simple and uncomplicated. 

And so I begin.

BREASTFEEDING

Excuse the random dude on the right, it's the most recent picture I had of me and my girls

I am a mother of two girls.  One is 2 1/2 and no longer breastfeeding.  She breastfed until she was just shy of a year old.  She weaned herself because I was pregnant and pretty much out of milk.  My current baby turns one tomorrow and is still breastfeeding.  Since I'm not pregnant (nor will I be in the near future) I plan to breastfeed her for quite some time more. 

I want to tell you about how amazing and simple breastfeeding is.  It is a wonderful way to provide your baby with the nourishment and comfort they need.  When done correctly it takes virtually no effort.  Your baby latches on and the milk flows.  That my body can create the most perfect nutrition for my baby still amazes me.  In fact babies really don't need anything else other than breastmilk for at least the first year of their lives. Even though my monster of a child loves to eat.

I will spare you the scientific reasoning behind why breastmilk is so nutritious.  You can look up the stats and components of breastmilk on your own.  Suffice it to say, it is the perfect food.

When you travel with a breastfed baby you don't have to bring bottles, formula, or bottled water.  The milk is always at a perfect temperature and provides warmth and comfort to a baby instantly.

Breastfeeding as you may have heard also burns calories in the mother and we all want that benefit.  It is also (usually) a decent form of contraception and women have been using nursing as a birth control method for centuries. 

Learning to breastfeed my first baby in the hospital

BUT (there's always a but), breastfeeding did not come easily to me with my first baby.  It was painful, I was engorged, my baby didn't eat properly and I was worried she wasn't gaining enough weight. I have to emphasize here that it did NOT start out being easy, but thankfully I had help from family and I did not give up.  I will pause here to say that breastfeeding does not work out for everyone for many reasons.  I think most of the time people do not have enough help.  You need people to tell you to stick with it.  You need people to help you clean your house and cook food so you can sequester yourself with your baby and just breastfeed.  You also need to learn and practice. Also some women do not want to breastfeed or cannot breastfeed again, not a problem for anyone, this just happens to be my experience.

Also I'll throw in here that many people claim breastfeeding is also free.  My husband always loved that I breastfed because you know it was free.  Maybe if you're a SAHM it's virtually free, but I spent money on nursing pads, nursing bras, nursing tank tops, storage bags, bottles (I still needed to go back to work and pump), etc.  So it really wasn't "free".  I suppose cheaper than formula? But not free.  And here is where I also mention that both my girls drank breastmilk from bottles with not much of a problem.  They switched from breast to bottle pretty well and thank god for that, because otherwise how is a woman supposed to go back to work?

Despite how hard breastfeeding was with my first baby, I can still write a post about how wonderful breastfeeding is because it eventually became easy for me.

My first baby getting much better at breastfeeding

With my second daughter (who turns one tomorrow) breastfeeding came quite easily from the start.  She was a better eater and I was more experienced.  I can honestly say that I have not struggled at all with my second baby. I always had (and still have) plenty of milk and I never once thought I was going to run out of milk or not be able to keep up with her while I pumped at work.  Breastfeeding has been a dream the second time around.  In fact, I have had so much milk that I have now donated about 200 oz.

100 oz of extra breastmilk I donated recently

I don't tell this breastfeeding story to brag.  After having breastfed children for a total of about two years now, I know that many women struggle with breastfeeding and breastfeeding is a very personal choice.  I also know that the controversy surrounding breastfeeding seems to grow each day.  I want to tell my story to just explain that sometimes just sometimes breastfeeding is simple and easy and goes the way nature intended. 

My champion breastfeeder nursing on a plane

I am also not going to get into the debate about breastfeeding in public, because in my eyes there is no debate.  I never had a problem breastfeeding in public and don't consider it to be an issue.  I do however, get saddened to read the stories that pop up at least once a week where a woman was shamed for breastfeeding her hungry baby in public.  I cannot believe that this is an issue in the 21st century.  But again, today's post will not be an angry rant in which I say that I want to punch people who oppose breastfeeding in public.  Nope I won't say that.  I will simply say that I have had a beautiful experience breastfeeding in public.  I have breastfed in pretty much every public place I have happened to be with my baby.  Church, museums, zoos, restaurants, you name it.  And "gasp" I usually don't cover up.  But if I do it's more to keep a distracted baby from unlatching, not to convenience ignorant people and their insecurities with the human body.

Look pirates breastfeed too

I rarely read positive stories about breastfeeding and I just wanted to share mine.  Now excuse me, the baby is up and I have to breastfeed her back down to sleep.  Yes, she still wakes up at night to nurse, and that folks, is not such a positive story!

Nursing a sick baby back to health- quite literally

This BREASTFEEDING post is a part of "Theme Thursday", a multi-blog collaboration. Click the button below to read posts from other bloggers, or to add your own.  Each week some great writers pick a topic to write about.  This week's topic was BREASTFEEDING.  Some past topics have been:

-Things That Aren't Blog
-Cats and Dogs
-Winter
-New Year's Resolutions
-Reality TV
-A Wedding story

and so on...

You can see all the previous Theme Thursday Topics on its pinterest page.

Special thanks to Something Clever 2.0 for just being awesome. Visit her page.  She actually blogs on a regular basis, something I strive to do one day.

#ThemeThursday

Making Iced Coffee

Every single morning, I go to Dunkin Donuts and I order a Medium Iced Latte with skim milk ONLY and a wheat bagel with strawberry cream cheese.  I spend exactly $5.85.  Say in an average month I work 22 work days.  Yeah I'll do the math for you, that's: $128.70 a month just for breakfast.  I won't get into what I spend for lunch every day.  But for now let's start with breakfast.

Finally I decided this was getting out of hand.  I generally don't like hot coffee.  I will drink hot coffee if it's around and I want coffee, but I much prefer cold coffee and iced lattes are even better.  So my goal for 2013 is to make my own iced coffee at home and add lots of milk, effectively making it an iced latte.  I searched for recipes online and they were all pretty straightforward.  Cold water + a lot of coffee= iced coffee.  I have been practicing for a few weeks now and I think I have the perfect recipe.  So here it is.  I'll pretend I'm a food blogger and show it to you with pictures.  How exciting.

 

 

Step 1: the coffee.  You're supposed to use more coarsely ground coffee but I never find any at the store so I use whatever coffee we have in our house.  Currently it is this one from Costco:

 

 

Step 2: Here is the tricky part.  You have to figure out a good ratio of coffee to water so the iced coffee tastes nice and strong.  Especially if you're going to add a lot of milk.  Most sources say double the coffee/water ratio for hot coffee.  One source said do 1 part coffee to every 4.5 parts coffee.  So I went with 5 coffee mugs of water to 1 coffee mug of coffee.  So 1 to 5 ratio.  This seems to taste the best but you should experiment.  Here's the coffee mug I used.  Really I just wanted to show it to you.  It's a picture of me and my two girls when my littlest one was born back in January.

 

Step 3: Mix everything together in some kind of container.  I use a really fancy 51 oz Bodum Iced Coffee Press that my husband bought me.  It's pretty and green.  You can seal it up and then it comes with a press part that squeezes all the coffee down to the bottom leaving you with the good stuff.  This comes 12-24 hours later.  The mixture looks like hot chocolate.

 

 

 

 



 

Step 4: Put it away in the fridge with a nice tight sealed cover and wait 12-24 hours.  You will soon see the beautiful layers of coffee on top.

 

 

Step 5: After patiently waiting many many hours, using your plunger thing push all the hard coffee on top down to the bottom and enjoy!

 

 

Here is a stock photo of how perfect your coffee will look.  Except not really because that's hot coffe below.  Yours will look and taste better.  And I've heard it lasts a few weeks fresh in the fridge but mine is gone in one week.

 

 

Let's have a fun non-lawyer blog post shall we?

Things I have learned as a mom

1. People love seeing pictures of your kids.  (I think) So here are 2 recent pictures of my girls.  Enjoy. 

2. Use small nail scissors to cut your baby's nails, way easier and less dangerous than using the clippers.

3. If you have hardwood floors, don't let your toddler run around the house in their socks, they will fall on their face.

4. Try not to rock your babies to sleep (if you can help it).  It's not so fun later.

5. Go out to eat at restaurants and take your children and make them behave.  They have to learn how to behave in public.

6. As much as you will be bombarded with new and pretty things for your babies in the beginning, keep it simple.  Babies (if you're breastfeeding) need very little in the beginning of their lives.  Milk, clothes, diapers, blankets and you're pretty much set. 

7. Travel with your kids, expose them to new cultures, new foods, and new people. 

8. Buy a good carrier for when your babies are little.  Like an ergo.  I would pesronally stay away from bjorn style carriers where the babies face outwards, they look terribly uncomfortable for the babies and they HURT your back.  Ergos and other similar carriers are great for long trips and especially good in airports, like so:

9. Document your kids' lives.  Not necessarily by writing a blog, but try some kind of journal.  I just open a word document every few months and sit down and type for 15 minutes.  I write about milestones in their lives, whether they are sleeping through the night, what kinds of words they are saying, etc.  That's it.  It's simple but it's a great way to remember those details you will NOT remember later in life!

10. Finally, I've learned, to relax.  To chill out and go with the flow.  Kids are unpredictable and it's pointless to stress yourself over things that you can't control.  I keep my house clean but there are some things that I have just let go.  For example, my toddler took a red marker and drew all over our couch.  And you know what? It's ok.  Why? Because our couch is old and crappy anyway.  We'll just buy a new one once the kids are older. 

I've learned many more things, but I'm out of time!

Protecting assets in banrkuptcy

Lately I've had a lot of clients ask me whether certain assets are protected when you file for Chapter 7 bankruptcy.  The correct terminology is whether there is an exemption that can be applied to the asset.

Generally speaking the following assets have exemptions that can be applied to them so that some or all of the asset can be protected:

1. Homes
2. Cars
3. Personal property
4. Tools of the trade
5. Retirement accounts
6. Tuition savings plan
7. Life insurance proceeds/cash value of policies
8. Proceeds of a personal injury lawsuit
9. Back due wages
10. Public benefits

The question is always how MUCH of an exemption do I get in order to protect my assets.  The answer is: It depends on what state you live in.

Here in IL the following are a general list of exemptions and their amounts.  This list was borrowed from a wonderful source known as Illinois Pro Bono.  The link can be found here.

Type of Property	Amount of Exemption	Controlling Statute
Residence or homestead of individual. Includes farm, lot and buildings, condominium, mobile home or cooperative. Can be owned or leased.	$15,000	735 IL Compiled Statutes (ILCS)5/12-901 (735 ILCS 5/12-906 includes proceeds of sale for 1 year)
Necessary wearing apparel, bible, school books and family pictures. Prescribed health aids of debtor and dependents.	100%	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(a) 735 ILCS 5/12-1001(e)
Any personal property of the debtor	$4,000	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(b)
One motor vehicle	$2,400	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(c)
Implements, professional books, tools of trade	$1,500	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(d)
Proceeds and cash value of life insurance policies and annuity contracts payable to dependent of insured	100%	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(f)
Public benefits: social security, unemployment compensation, public assistance, veteran's and disability and illness benefits	100%	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(g) (1), (2), (3)
Alimony, support or separate maintenance	Amount reasonably necessary to support debtor and dependents.	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(g)(4)
Crime victim's reparation awards	100%	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(h)(1)
Wrongful death payments as a result of the death of a person who supported the debtor	Amount reasonably necessary to support debtor.	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(h)(2)
Life insurance payments from a policy insuring a person who supported the debtor	Amount reasonably necessary to support debtor and dependents.	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(h)(3)
Payments on account of bodily injury to the debtor or a person who supported the debtor	$15,000	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(h)(4)
Restitution payments made under Federal Civil Liberties Act of 1988 and the Aleutian and Pribilof Island Restitution Act	100%	735 ILCS 5/12-1001(h)(5)

The bottom line is that MOST people who are filing Chapter 7 bankruptcy can protect their homes as long as they don't have much equity, one or two cars depending on the values, and normal household items.

Some things that are considered "assets" that people usually don't think about:

1. Your anticipated Federal Tax Refund
2. Proceeds from a potential lawsuit claim you may have against someone
3. Lottery proceeds
4. Inheritances

I'll end this blog post with the usual lawyer-speak.  ALWAYS speak to a knowledgeable attorney about your assets before filing for bankruptcy.

More questions? Ask us.

www.schottlerlaw.com

BREASTFEEDING HATERS

Why oh why do so many people HATE on women who breastfeed? They say that breastfeeding in public offends them, or it should be done in private, or it's gross, or icky, or seeing a woman breastfeed makes them want to vomit, or makes them want to kick a woman in the face.

-this beautiful picture courtesy of the Fresno county Breastfeeding Friendly Campaign website. 

http://first5fresno.org/policy/current-projects/breastfeeding-friendly-campaign

I wish I was joking, or exaggerating, but sadly these are the exact reactions that people have been posting lately on twitter.  I follow some pretty kick-ass people on twitter.  Some of which make it a point to RT these disgusting and ignorant tweets about breastfeeding.  I try not to respond.  I try to control myself.  But as a breastfeeding mother who lives in a country that actually has several laws to PROTECT breastfeeding mothers, I can't help but respond.

If you read something that said: "Breast feeding in public is detrimental to my health, therefor should be banned!" wouldn't you feel compelled to respond? I can't find the source of that tweet but it was some idiot.

I do wonder if I'm wasting my time arguing with idiots on twitter, but I can't help but confront some of these people and their ignorant attitudes towards breastfeeding mothers.

In case you don't believe that people can be so stupid, here are some actual tweets I have seen in just the last few weeks that will convince you humanity is screwed.

But first here is a cool campaign in the UK to help promote and normalize breastfeeding.

http://www.beastar.org.uk/

And now.  The ugly truth:

Seriously.  The above tweets are real and have not been altered in any way shape or form, except that the tweets have been copied and pasted into this blog post and the responses to the tweets have not been posted.  Hey that's the beauty of a PUBLIC forum like twitter right?  Your ignorant comments can be memorialized on the internet FOREVER.

I'm done for today.

Happy breastfeeding.  In PUBLIC.  Or wherever and however you should choose to feed your baby.

Breasts.

Breasts.

Did that get your attention? It really shouldn't have.

So I think it's time for a new blog post.  I have been a terrible blogger.  Mostly because I work FT and I now have 2 children.  Count them: ONE.  TWO.  Well some days it seems like there are more than that.

Anyway I feel like I've come full circle since I first started this blog, but not in a good way.  I began the blog last year with a post about breastfeeding in public and how America is ass-backwards (excuse my language) when it come to BFing in public.  We just can't seem to accept that breasts' primary function are to feed children.  Why? Because breasts have become so sexualized by the media that we are just completely hung up on them and can't imagine they are used for anything else.  It's pretty sad really, that a woman can't BF in public without having to worry about people casting judgment upon her for merely feeding her hungry baby.

Now that I started a twitter account a few months ago, I have seen so many young women tweet things like "EW this woman is BFing at a restaurant! I want to throw up".  Really.  Tweets like this exist.  People actually think that a woman BFing their child is disgusting.  What on earth is wrong with these people?  I could rant and rave about how incredibly stupid and ignorant people are but I'm tired of it.  I'm tired of having to defend breastfeeding.

But unfortunately we have to keep defending breastfeeding, after all didn't TIME magazine just throw this cover in our face?

I know.  It's just a sensationalist attempt to sell magazines.  But it has provoked all kinds of discussion about whether BFing a toddler is wrong, and really makes mothers who BF their children past a certain age look crazy.  Not to mention, the article discusses Attachment Parenting as an "extreme" parenting method.  I cannot begin to tell you how much I HATE these types of parenting labels.

So here we are again.  Mothers who breastfeed their children keep having to defend themselves, in public especially, because people in this country are just hung up on the notion that breasts are for sex.

I am travelling this weekend to NY and we're going with our 2 kids- the almost 2 yr old toddler and our 4 month old.  She is exclusively BF and this is going to work marvelously on our trip.  I don't have to pack bottles, formula, or water.  I just have to take my ergo carrier and BF whenever she pleases.  This will mean I will absolutely be BFing at the airport, in a restaurant, and most definitely on a plane.  Why? Because I damn well please.  Oh and more importantly because when my baby is hungry, I will feed her.  And I will not care about other people's childish insecurities about breasts.  I don't cover up, but I'm also pretty discrete (I think) and I plan on breastfeeding anywhere.  Anytime.

I dare you to tell me to cover up while I BF my daughter.  I double dare you.

And as a final note, god I'm glad to be leaving Chicago this weekend during their crazy NATO summit.  See you in NY!

Being shackled during labor.

Yes you read correctly women who are incacerated or detained are sometimes shackled during labor. 

First of all.  I apologize (not sure who actually reads my blog if anyone) but I haven't updated in quite some time.  Probably because I'm just about 9 months pregnant now and any bit of precious time I have at night I usually spend stuck in the couch or trying to get some much needed rest before baby #2 comes along. 

So I will try to post more often.  Also I changed the theme of the blog from "Family law issues" to pretty much any legal issue, because I think it was a bit misleading.  I'm not after all, a family law attorney, but I find legal issues that affect families to be interesting.  I'm not sure people really grasped the distinction because I kept getting requests from people to write about specific family law issues.

Shaul Schwarz/Getty Images

Anyway I digress, back to being shackled during labor.  It sounds like it would fit into the category of cruel and unusual punishment right? Well it should in my opinion, and some states have taken that stance.

I'm inspired to write about this, because in the last few years I have read a few stories online about women who had been charged with some immigration violations (like using false IDs) who were forced to give birth while in shackles or handcuffs!  I read those stories and was so incredibly angry. My heart went out to these women especially given that I have already gone through labor once and am now pregnant again and cannot even fathom having to be restrained while in labor.

The links to some of these stories are below:

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=128563037&ft=1&f=1128

http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/blog/2009/07/06/giving-birth-chains-the-shackling-incarcerated-women-during-labor-and-delivery

I finally read a follow up to one of the stories and it inspired me to write this post.

image provided by: phoenixnewstimes.com

Two years ago a woman by the name of Miriam Mendiola-Martinez said she was forced to give birth while shackled to a bed, not allowed to hold her newborn baby after birth and even forced to walk out of the hospital while shackled just a few days after her c-section still bleeding. 

Follow up

She has now (thankfully) sued our favorite sheriff, Joe Arpaio of Arizona (yes that was sarcasm, he is awful in my opinion). 

It all sounds extreme but that's what her lawsuit alleges.  I'm trying to get my hands on a copy of the complaint and hope to find a link to the actual complaint online. Here is the citation to the case:
Mendiola v. Arpaio, et. al, Arizona District Court Number 11CV2512, filed on 12/19/11.  I was able to access the case through the Federal Court filing and I THINK you can view it here.
For all the lawyers and others who actually want to know what her complaint is alleging, here are the counts in the complaint:

• PLAINTIFF’S CAUSE OF ACTION AGAINST DEFENDANTS FOR INTERFERING WITH PLAINTIFF’S RIGHTS UNDER 42 USC §§ 1981 and 1983
• COUNT ONE
  

  VIOLATIONS OF THE EIGHTH AMENDMENT

  (Deliberate Indifference to Serious Medical Needs)
• COUNT TWO
  

  VIOLATIONS OF THE FOURTEENTH AMENDMENT

  (Deliberate Indifference to Serious Medical Needs)
• COUNT THREE VIOLATIONS OF THE EIGHTH AND FOURTEENTH AMENDMENTS
  (Cruel and Unusual Punishment)
• COUNT FOUR VIOLATIONS OF THE FIFTH, FOURTEENTH, AND FIFTEENTH AMENDMENTS
  (Equal Protection – Disparate Treatment)
• COUNT FIVE-MONELL LIABILITY (this has to do with her alleging that she suffered immediate and irreparable injury, including physical, psychological and emotional injury and risk of death. See
  Monell v. New York City Dept. of Social Svcs., 436 U.S. 658 (1978)

And just to touch on some of the legal issues involved according to the Huffing Post article cited above and other research:

Legal Issues

 

• The American Medical Association and the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists have denounced the practice of shackling during childbirth
• BUT it's still legal in 36 states
• The Federal Bureau of Prisons and the United States Marshal's Service have also eliminated the practice.
• In 2008 the U.S. Court of Appeals for the 8th Circuit found shackling during child birth to constitute cruel and unusual punishment, in violation of the Eighth Amendment.  HERE is a link to the case NELSON v. CORRECTIONAL MEDICAL SERVICES ADC.
• Also, supposedly ten states now have anti-shackling legislation: California, Colorado, Illinois, New Mexico, New York, Texas, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia — and as of two weeks ago, Pennsylvania. (I have yet to read all of these statutes and can provide links to the statutes once I do)
• The practice has been condemned by the United Nations, Amnesty International and Human Rights Watch, as well as the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), which maintains it is a violation of the Eighth Amendment prohibition of “cruel and unusual punishments.

And finally of course, this is not the first time a woman has been forced to give labor under these extreme and cruel conditions.  Here are lots of more examples I found. 

• Here in our good old Cook County (in Chicago):  "Childbirth in Chains, more than 20 former Cook County inmates have filed suit, say they were handcuffed or shackeld during labor"
• Here is a case where a woman actually sued in Federal Court in TN and was awarded $200,000.00 in damages.  The case is: Villegas v. Metropolitan Government of Davidson County/Nashville Davidson County Sheriff’s Office.
• This is a nice article I found from "Our Bodies Our Selves" (Our Bodies Ourselves (OBOS), also known as the Boston Women’s Health Book Collective (BWHBC), is a nonprofit, public interest women’s health education, advocacy, and consulting organization.) called "Shackled during birth, nothing to lose but our humanity" that talks about this problem.
• Here is another recent article from "The Daily Beast" that addresses the issue.
• Finally, the Justice Fellowship site gives a nice synopsis of some recent cases of women restrained while in labor. 

The National Orgazination for Women

The National Organization for Women put together a "Guide to Eliminating Shackling of Incarcerated Women Pre-, During and Post-Labor and Delivery" in 2010 that I found quite helpful in that it cited several cases and websites that provide information about this practice.

 Controversy

The topic of shackling women during labor is sure to cause a heated argument amongst those who don't believe that prisoners or detainees have the same rights as others, and those who believe in human rights across the board. 

It also separates those who believe that law enforcement should be allowed to protect themselves and shackle inmates even in labor who may pose a risk to the public, from those who believe the practice amounts to cruel and unusual punishment. 

Finally, as far as the immigration and deportation cases go, there will also be those people who argue that people who are in this country illegally should not have a right to sue the government and receive compensation from the American people and others who do want to hold our government accountable for their actions even if committed against an "illegal" or undocumented immigrant.